I don't know about you, but anytime I hear the song "Drops of Jupiter" I sing it as loud as I can. It's just one of those feel good songs that always put you in a good mood, least that's how it is for me. Could you imagine though if a guy came up to you and sit beside you and smelled you hair and said "gosh baby, your hair smells like Drops of Jupiter"? I'm guessing you would probably look at him like he's high on something, but you would least probably laugh at how corny it was.
Sadly dating these days isn't even that quirky or corny. Gone are the days of picking a girl up, opening the car door, and going to a dinner and a movie. Don't get me wrong I'm not saying that there aren't couples who still do that, what I'm saying is for the majority today's dating scene is like stubbing your toe, it's painful.
I get so many emails about broken relationships, and see on Facebook couples lashing out at one another in hurt because of a breakup. I literally had a teenage boy tell me one time "man I know it's probably wrong but I'm just seeing how many girls I can be with before I graduate". He now has 2 kids from two different girls and hasn't even graduated high school. Sadly in today's times there's a terrible misconception of what love really is. Today love is being defined through Hollywood, Pornography, Lust, Social Media, Sexting, and the list goes on. Gone are the days of making corny mix tapes for a lady, and is replace with asking for nudes.
There is pattern we can get in that actually makes stubbing your toe less painful than dating. Example, a young lady can find herself in a horrible relationship. I mean one that is full of hurt, deceit, manipulation, lying, forms of abuse, and lies. She continues in it because she thinks that he really loves her and she can somehow change him. One day though her heart gives out and she finally breaks the power he has over her and gets the courage to leave. Eventually as time passes she gets into another relationship. Since her last relationship was so horrible she can't recognize the relationship she is in now is just as bad, just on another level. She may be being used for sexual activity or controlled in someway and she doesn't even know it because of how bad her previous relationship was. So it starts the pattern of her not knowing her true worth.
Truth is many are afraid to stand on there own. Being single these days is like having a deadly disease. Not knowing your worth leads to doing things just to get another persons attention. You lose who you really are, and you settle for whatever comes along. I always tell teenagers if you are dating someone, honestly ask yourself if you could wake up to that person the rest of your life. If the answer is no, then you are waisting valuable days in your life that you can't get back. If you are dating someone and all your friends don't like them then that's a huge clue. If you're dating someone and they control everything you do and tries to manipulate you into what they want you to be then run away as far as you can. So next time you're in your car and Drops of Jupiter comes on think about how much your worth. Sing out loud and realize you don't have to settle. Next time you stub your toe let it remind you that you don't have to get into a pattern of bad relationships. You wait as long as you need to until the one you can picture spending your life with comes along. Until then enjoy your freedom and work on you.