Are you strong enough to stand on your own? Honestly ask yourself that question, then honesty answer that question. Trust me, you want to be able to say YES!
I Remember a few months ago I was speaking at a school and I asked the students to stand if they know of anyone being bullied, going through a hard time, or struggling with something. I ask this at every school, but this particular time one of my volunteers was recording the response. Later on that day we were watching it back and noticed a young man who started to stand and seen that none of his friends stood so he sit back down. Little does that young man know, but the fear of standing on his on will follow him the rest of his life. I receive emails from males and females who have been through break-ups and will tell me "I don't know what I'm gonna do, they were my world. I don't know how I'm gonna live without them". My hope for teens is that they will not put themselves on life support for anyone, instead that they would learn to stand on their own. Never do you want to give someone that kind of power over your life.
My hope is for teens to do things for themselves and learn to stand on their own two feet. People you rely on won’t be around forever, and you don’t want to have to use others as a crutch to get anywhere in life. To get to where I'm at in life I had to learn to stand on my own. I didn't want to keep blaming my past or letting it control everything I did. I also didn't want to rely on people feeling sorry for me. Was it hard to get to a place of standing on my own? Of course it was. I had to do some soul searching, surround myself with solid and dependable friends, get some counseling, and admit my weaknesses. Have I lost friends along the way? Goodness yes, but guess what, there are tons of amazing people in the world, not just a few. Every person I've lost it has made me stronger. It also lead me to other friends who haven't left, and who stick by me even when my special kind of crazy reveals itself. That's part of standing on your own is having those fiends you aren't afraid to call on when you can't figure out how to do things on your own, and they aren't afraid to help you.
Point is, yes people leave, break-ups happen, people hurt us, but life truly does go on. Nothing or no one should have enough power over you to make you afraid or weak enough to stand on your own. Find the courage to take control of your like and stand on your own I promise you won't regret it.